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Before I start I totally recognise that there are some situations we face in life that take a long time to come to terms with and we may never see them as opportunities. Things like a relative passing away and having a serious accident etc. However in life pain is inevitable, suffering however is not.

Responsibility is a word that Dr Stephen Covey (Author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) breaks into two parts. the Ability to Respond.

We are told over and over that we must take responsibility for our lives and situations we find ourself in. Often time we do one of two things. We moan about situations or try to apportion blame on others (it’s their fault I feel like this etc.)

If we do take responsibility we can still feel like victims of circumstances. e.g. I’m upset about what you have done. (You’re owning the feeling but still feeling rubbish about what has happened)

It’s great that in the second option we are taking responsibility but we aren’t necessarily taking ownership of what happens next.

Personal responsibility is all about owning your thoughts and feelings but also looking at how YOU can make the best out of any situation you are in. Whether it’s an argument with family or friends, whether you have just had the worst day ever or whether your business is not making enough money. All of these things are just information that you have become consciously aware of. What matters is what you do about it.

Often times we put a vast amount of energy into wishing that these things didn’t happen. But doing this never changes the fact it DID happen. So what matters is what you do next.

So it’s great if you have stopped blaming people, situations and circumstances for where you are in your life. the next step is to look at how you can turn wherever you are in your life or any situation you are in, into a positive outcome for you and those around you.

Life can be so enjoyable and yet we get wrapped up in little stories that can influence us to feel rubbish.

Keep making the right choices for you and those around you 🙂