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Harley Lane, 4, starts school after losing ALL his limbs to meningitis | Mail Online.
It’s early in the morning, I’m not feeling too great (been rough most of the week), I have had 3 hours sleep and looks like that may be all I get tonight but somehow that doesn’t seem important when you read stories like this.
As a dad of 3 kids I cannot imagine the challenges facing the parents as their lovely son was going through this terrible time not knowing if he would survive. Then he has both arms and legs amputated in an attempt to save his life and finally the boy pulls through and he is still ONLY 4 Years old.
Going to school can be a scary prospect for most kids but to go to school after all this is simply a blessing and it is truly heart warming that most of the other pupils have accepted him and WANT to be his friend.
With the right support Harley will grow into a wonderful person who may just give more to this world now that he has suffered something so traumatic so young.
I’m off to bed now to see if I can get some sleep, but if I don’t manage it, I won’t moan because, after reading this story, it’s not so bad 🙂
Personal responsibilty really needs to start by noticing when you can’t support yourself anymore. I’m not sure I accept that the dad, who want’s to be a tatooist, [what’s stopping him?] should wait for his ideal job whilst happilly taking money off the state. I’m sure the 6 kids didn’t happen by accident and if they are unable to look after all their kids then maybe some should be taken into care and looked after by someone who can.
The only thing stopping them getting the house they need using their own money is the fact they’re not prepared to go out and earn it. The world doesn’t owe you a living or a life, sometimes you just have to go and make it happen yourself.
I wonder what type of message their kids are getting about the world and what they need to do to be both happy and successful.
It seems that success for the parents is having lots of kids, demanding a bigger house and then contributing NOTHING to society themselves.
In a recent survey it found that parents spend 49 minutes a day with their children. See BBC link here
This number dramatically reduces the moment you get divorced. As a dad I only see my daughter every other weekend (Fri to Monday morning) and every Wednesday evening – Thursday morning.
When I first got divorced it was a real challenge to NOT see my daughter everyday. But actually it was a real wake up call as when I was living wither her full-time I never really appreciated the relationship. I loved her but never focused on quality time. Since moving out and then becoming a step dad I now see real value in spending QUALITY time with her.
There are so many things that stop you spending time with your kids. As the article suggests, things like money & time really get in the way. But do they have to?
During the time you are not with your kids today, notice how much of that you COULD be with your kids? Cooking, cleaning, tidying, watching TV (could you watch their TV instead of yours), gardening, washing the car, shopping and so many more.
Of course all these tasks seem like chores to kids, so you have to give them tasks to carry out so they feel like THEY want to do them. But often they’ll do it if they know they’ll get to spend time with you. They’ll also be learning some of life’s essential skills, as well as not treating the home like a hotel. Just don’t start them off on a task and then walk away and leave them too it.
Yesterday my step son (10) spent 2 hours in the kitchen cooking dinner ala ‘come dine with me’ style. He cooked mushroom & cheese starter, fish and potato fry and a chocolate pudding. All cooked from raw ingredients.
My wife was supervising from a distance and just about EVERY pot and pan was used in what resembled a science lesson as much as it was cooking. BUT and this is the important bit, he took great value in his work and had great pride too. We didn’t score it like they do in the TV prog but it was a massive effort which was duly rewarded.
You may have less time than ever to be there for your kids but if you don’t invest quality time with them NOW you’ll be investing quantity of time in them later when they fail to have the life skills and right attitude for success in today’s society.
Oh and as a footnote, my stepson not only cooked, he also washed up. It’s an important part of cooking even if it is a little less glamorous. Tonight it is the turn of my step daughter to cook. I may seek out the paper plates to cut down on the washing up 🙂
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